Marry a Pakistani Man? – beware. This is a sizzling hot topic. Many Pakistani men come to the US or the UK in search of a better life. To get the better life, some seek out women in the US or the UK for marriage. I will use the word “foreign” when I speak of the women or wives from the US. and the UK.
Women want to marry a Pakistani man, as he seems kind, sweet, charming, and debonair. She sees him as the man of her dreams. He treats her as a princess. Many of the women don’t know the Pakistani man uses those qualities to trap the foreign women. Many of the men are deceitful. A Foreign woman who marries a Pakistani man could find herself spun in a web of deception.
Women from the US or the UK marry a Pakistani man without realizing the truth
Over the years, while being here at polygamy 411, I’ve learned a lot about this topic from the commentators who are foreign women. They had married Pakistani men. Many of the Pakistani men marry foreign women, but do not tell them that they already have wives. Some have children too that are in Pakistan. More often than not, the Pakistani man married his first cousin in Pakistan. They had an “arranged marriage.” When the already married Pakistani men marry the foreign women, it makes him polygamous.
Often these Pakistani men never take the foreign wives to Pakistan to meet their families, relatives, or friends. Many times, the people in Pakistan that I just mentioned never know of the wife who is in the US or the UK. The foreign wife becomes a “secret wife.”
The foreign women who marry a Pakistani man may one day get a surprise of their lives
The husband may one day say he must go back to Pakistan. He then comes back married to someone else. He more than likely married his first cousin. He says his mother made him do it. He gives the foreign wife excuses as to why he could not defy his mother. Although the reason is cultural, he’ll say it’s Islam. He’s got it twisted. It has nothing to do with Islam.
When the foreign wife learns of the marriage to the other woman, she becomes distraught. It doesn’t matter if it was an arranged marriage or otherwise. She doesn’t know what to do. She has already become emotionally invested. She has made a life with this man. She has a huge problem. It is extremely difficult and painful for her to resolve it.
Why do these Pakistani men do this to foreign women? Many do it to get citizenship/naturalization/immigration status in the US or the UK. They do it to foreign women from other countries, as well. They want a better life for themselves and their families back home in Pakistan.
Some fall in love with the foreign women whom they married. Others do not. They just get the immigration status that they sought and then divorce the foreign women.
Foreign women who marry a Pakistani man should beware of the lies, deceit and betrayal that may await them
A foreign woman should thoroughly investigate the Pakistani man whom she intends to marry. She should make sure she meets his family, relatives, and friends in Pakistan. She should ask him if he is already married or if his family has arranged a marriage for him to take place in the future.
She should make safe her assets. She, for instance, should keep her funds separate from his, or have a prenuptial agreement. Most importantly, she should act, using intellect and not emotions. These men are suave and very convincing.
I, in no way, assert that every Pakistani man is as I described above. I just want you to know that I have learned there are very many Pakistani men who have done all that I have stated above. We all know nothing is absolute except our Creator. I simply urge all women that if they marry a Pakistani man, beware!
The problem is so serious that the Muslim Minister Baroness Warsi spoke on it. Click link below to read the article:
To learn more about the Baroness Warsi visit: http://www.sayeedawarsi.com/about/